No More Resolutions

Like many people, I have an unfortunate history with resolutions. I spent years making them, only to fail spectacularly by January 15. Then I stopped making them altogether, but found that I spent the year not really working towards anything. This year, I’m going to try something different.

I’m going to spend some time thinking about what kind of person I want to be and then focus on thoughts and activities that will lead me closer to that vision. I’m not talking about becoming someone else; I don’t want to be Oprah or Nancy Pelosi or Jennifer Nettles or Erin Doland or even Heather Armstrong, though I admire them all for various reasons. I’m talking about the parts of myself that I want to make better and the places where I want to direct my focus.

My idea is that if I can create a specific picture of the kind of person I want to be, then the actions will naturally fall into place. I haven’t completely worked out all of the details, but here are a few things to start with:

  • I want to spend time with my family without multi-tasking (i.e. “You all keep playing, I’ll be right back after I move the clothes from the washer to the dryer.”) My mind is constantly running off to all the other things I think I need to be doing. I want to spend more time in the moment.
  • I want to improve my efforts to live in a more environmentally and socially responsible way. I’m off to a good start, but there’s always room for improvement.
  • I want to live more simply, because clutter, both life clutter and physical clutter, add to my level of stress and reduce my level of enjoyment.
  • I want to be more mindful of my expenditures, both of time and money. It’s not so much about being restrictive as it is about doing less wasting, and more spending, on things that truly matter to me.

Soon, I plan to break these desires down into specific actions that will move me closer to the kind of person I want to be. I’ve often said that unless we know why we want to do something, the motivation is harder to come by. If I know that the things I do and the choices I make every day will lead me either towards or away from my goals, it’s much easier.

How about you? What kind of person do you want to be and how do you plan to get there?

Comments

  1. I think it’s great that you realised something didn’t work for you and now you’re trying something different. I don’t think I could do that however since I need a more rigid structure and be able to figure out if the goal I set out to do has been achieved.

    Let us know how you’re getting on later in the year 🙂

  2. I’m with you Beth. I didn’t make any resolutions either. I could also identify with each of your points above so I’m eager to read what’s ahead on SFT! 🙂
    .-= Nicki at Domestic Cents´s last blog ..Baking Soda Paste – A Stain Remover =-.

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